Dear College of Education Community,
As we say good bye to the holidays, many of us are thinking about new year resolutions for 2023. But here is a different way to think about what we wish for in the new year…intentions rather than resolutions. “I am making intentions instead, but more than that, I’m setting them in a framework that will give them wings,” states Dorothy Chin in a Psychology Today blog. Below are some intentions she suggests for us to consider.
Resolution vs. Intention
First, let’s do away with the idea of a “resolution,” which is rooted in the word “resolve,” with connotations of gritting one’s teeth and pushing that Sisyphean boulder up a relentless, punishing hill. For some, this image motivates, but often it can easily deflate a worthy intention before the second step is taken. Many experts now encourage the idea of "intention", which engages not only the executive part of the brain, but recruits other parts as well that tap into emotional and spiritual dimensions. The idea of intention is to set one’s purpose toward a path with one’s entire being, instead of action toward specific behaviors, which can lose steam when those results are not quickly reached.
Set Time, Not Goals
A wise friend once told me “Do not set an end result as the goal, set the time in which you do the things you want to do.” For example, I’m usually dogged by not writing when I should be writing. I tell myself I should write more, that I need to finish this article, that manuscript, a book. That seems to result not in getting writing done but in making myself feel bad (and a very clean house). Instead, it would be better to set my intention to write and the time to write: say, from 8:30 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. There is no need to set a page goal or make other rules that might bog things down. There is just space and time.
Take Advantage of the Premack Principle
The Premack principle is a behavioral strategy that states that the presence of a high-probability behavior can make a low-probability behavior more likely. In other words, to enact a new behavior, hitch it to a well-established behavior. So, now that I’ve set my intention to write and the time to write, I can link it to a high-probability behavior (in this case, with 100 percent likelihood), such as dropping my kids off at school in the morning. Some experts even suggest a daily mundane behavior, such as brushing teeth, as the trigger for the new behavior, such as exercising. The point is that it gets the action rolling without much thought or self-motivating talk, and over time, it becomes routine as well.
One Intention, Multiple Paths
Let’s face it, no matter how much you set an intention, if there’s no intrinsic enjoyment once you start, it will likely fall by the wayside. So, find a path you enjoy that will bring the same results. In truth, I hate exercising, but, luckily, I love sports, so I play volleyball and will try pretty much any sport. Don’t like sports either? I offer a gem from yet another wise friend: Get a dog, walk it. A lovely way to exercise, go out in nature, enjoy companionship, and meet people!
To read this blog, please go to https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/a-different-lens/202212/better-than-a-resolution-try-a-new-years-intention
For a list of self-care options, please go to our COE self-care website for resources for faculty, staff, students, and the community at
https://www.csun.edu/eisner-education/self-care/articles-information-self-care
May your intentions bring you peace, joy, and happiness in this new year. And many thanks to Dr. Jennifer Pemberton for sharing this blog!
Warmly,
Shari